HEE HEE HEE HEE....(Battisi dikhaake)....may I point out that one wonderful year has passed since this brilliant management theory was successfully put into practice by the self-proclaimed Management Guru. No I am not talking about Mr.Arindam Choudhary...I believe he has never proclaimed it himself. I am talking about Mr.Ayan Goswami. For the students of this science, who aspire to toe a similar line or more importantly, may find themselves at such crossroads, here is a piece of writing on how this theory works. This Theory is based on the fundamental principle of co-ordination between key players through a focussed approach towards the set goals. The success of this theory is primarily dependent on the directing and monitoring ability of the leader. This might not work in everyone's case due to varied reason like the managing skills of the leader, efficiency of the key players, God's interest levels and ofcourse TQ(Tolerance Quotient) which again is a matter of luck.
The Guy and the girl meet, fall in love and decide to get married. Sounds easy....right???? Wait the fun just begins here....!!! Planning a wedding in Indian context has always been a tricky and challenging task keeping in view the diverse culture. The SOP of wedding changes from house to house. The arrangement of arranged marriages also do not have 100% success ratio and the record of Love marriages is far worse in India. The complicacy here was at a much higher level. Convincing all the non-hindi speaking family members in North-East of India to arrange a proper social marriage between their Bengali son with a hindi speaking Punjabi girl based in Chandigarh, without being able to meet the girl or her family. It sounded scary when this task was carried out like a video game with the difficulty level increasing at each stage. The smooth transition from bachelorhood to that of a married one required mastering the unpredictable variables at play. In hindsight, I must admit that I had some strengths which proved handy in the success of this theory and so should be the case with anyone. Having strengths is not enough though but the key is to make optimum use of those. Let me highlight the strengths that helped me juggle all the unpredictabilities and come out with a PERFECT ACT!!!
Firstly, my relatives had the image of a "Bhola Bhala Ladka" of mine in their minds thanks to me actually being that way. Just to prove a point...here's my favourite question..."Duniya Gol Kyun Hoti Hain????". So it came as a shocker when one fine day they heard it from my parents. Whenever someone elderly remarks "Tui je eerokom biyaa korbey, bhabtey o paarsi na amra" (That you get married this way was beyond our imagination), my cousins immediately jump to claim that they had always known that I was anything but "Bhola Bhala". We still have a good laugh at this whenever this topic comes up for discussion. Honestly, their opinion never mattered to me that much as that of my parents did. I thought this would take lot of convincing for them to even decide on hearing the Girls' voice over the phone. This theory though, would have failed even with its brilliant concept, had Ma or Baba decided otherwise. Infact, their son was shocked at the ease with which he won their "approval". Today, I must admit that they knew their son but their son didn't really know his parents. Perhaps, that is one universal truth.
Secondly, the pillar on which this relationship got cemented into a marital commitment has to be my guardian angel in the form of "Mishtimoni"(my maamiji) and "Boromamu"(my maamaji). They were my first two KEY PLAYERS. In my family, they were the first exponents of something similar to this theory and hence they could understand me. There were no linguistic barriers at least in their case but one has to concede that the TQ in that era was negligible. Knowledge of this did not influence my decision at all but my equation with Mishtimoni is such that I could trust her with this job. I literally coerced them into this by providing a weird logic. They get ready to pick up a stick, with a smile on their faces ofcourse, everytime they are reminded of that Blackmail Call. Would you like to know what that logic was??? Now that you said yes then let me share it with you guys...hehehe.
I never intended to quit my job in Hyderabad and join the Banking sector. Mishtimoni and Boromamu with great difficulty managed to convince me to try one such recruitment examination. Strangely I got selected and my new job brought me to Chandigarh where this relationship got initiated. The reason that I gave them was that because of them I had to shift base from Hyderabad to Chandigarh where this girl fell for my REALLY TALL, HARDLY DARK, EXTREMELY HANDSOME, SUPER INTELLIGENT & AXE EFFECT WAALA ATTITUDE (oops the truth is out...but sorry Gul for not being able to accommodate my other 3456 qualities that you had pointed out...lol!!!). So it was their DUTY to help me out. They could do nothing but surrender before the truth.
Finally, my other key player was my friend Shiladitya or Adi as he fondly calls himself. Now that Mishtimoni and Boromamu had played a good knock and their partnership brightened the chances of a win significantly. Next stage was all about consolidation. Picking out the thorns one at a time for smooth passage was crucial and his KRAs were well defined. He did a good job and never wavered from the script. Oh yeah, he got a good incentive as well based on his performance. A unconfirmed reservation from Chandigarh to Kolkata with multiple opportunities to do some "Cooliegiri" along the way. Sadly though, the Man of the Moment also had to drag quite a few bags himself.
Well well I have been exposed enough to this Balaji trick over the years thanks to ladies in the house and so I know that it is the appropriate time to end it here. Picture abhi baaki hain mere dost!! The next part is about the days leading to the wedding and how all the celebrations finally culminated in Kolkata. It was a wonderful journey and a fantastic start to this phase of life with the special one. I can see the curiosity levels rising and there is a great chance that the post would receive the most number of hits(twoooooooo or even threeeeeeeeeeeeee). Aage Gul aur Ayan ki shaadi pe kya hua tha....dekhenge HUMLOG!!!
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